The holidays are upon us and I am a few thousand miles away from home. I’m in Brazil with my wife right now. We have been here for 2 months.
My parents and some of my siblings are in Arkansas. Some siblings are in Michigan. I have aunts, uncles, and cousins in both states that I am really close to. It would seem that I would get homesick, but I don’t.
I never do.
It’s hard for many people to understand, but I don’t “miss” people the way others miss people.
I don’t feel sad that I am away from people for long periods of time.
I have been this way for as long as I remember.
When I was young, I moved a lot. I was always OK with moving to a new location. I was never sad about being away from the parent that I didn’t live with. I wasn’t sad about being away from my family and friends. I was more excited about the adventure of living in a new place and making new friends.
I’m originally from Michigan. I moved to Arkansas in 2004. Minus my stint in Korea and my travels, Arkansas has been where I have hung my hat for about 10 years.
So which place should I miss?
I miss going to Detroit Tigers and Detroit Lions games, but I don’t miss living in Michigan.
I’m not wanting to hurt any feelings, but I really don’t miss anybody. Well at least not to the point where it would affect my mood.
Don’t get me wrong, when I reunite with friends family, I have a great time. It’s almost like I never left.
I often wish that they were with me on trips, but more so that they could enjoy the things I am enjoying.
Maybe it’s because time seems to fly by. Maybe it’s because we have so much technology that we can always be in touch. Maybe because I’m just weird. I’m not fully sure why I don’t miss people.
I do know that I really don’t have a sense of home. Arkansas isn’t home, but neither is Michigan. I think that this allows me to be anywhere in the world and not feel lost.
I would love for my family and friends to be with me and to travel the world with me. I would love my nieces and nephews to experience the great joys of world travel, but I do not miss people in a way that I would want to stay at home just to be with them.
I love almost everyone I know. I love the time I spend with my friends and family.
I just don’t miss them, in the normal sense.